I Wish Somebody Would Have Told Me


Dekesha Lanee'

We've all made mistakes, and we've all had the thought "I wish somebody would have told me...".

Or better yet, I wish somebody would have showed me. There's a lesson in every moment, and every lesson learned in life is like a treasure, that if you share it can have an amazing positive chain reaction, but if not it's allowed to be repeated in the lives of those you care about around you. What you go through in life is only a small part about you, the larger purpose is to equip you with what you need to help someone else.

I'm sure you have a busy life. As a busy mom of two myself, I know firsthand how easy it is to make excuses for not taking the time to share with my kids or those around me, but the thought of them walking through some of the things I've gone through just because I didn't tell them, gives me the energy I need to push past that.

So how do you do it? Well for me it's as simple as thinking out loud. My experiences are my experiences, and it's not realistic to expect them to know what it's like just because I tell them, so I choose to open up parts of my life to them through the filter God gives me.

A perfect example was what happened this past week. I was trying to get to an appointment with only a small window of time to do it in, and after starting in the direction I was tempted to give up and turn around when I hit rush hour traffic. I decided to share my thoughts with my son who was with me. I told him what I was trying to do and about the thought to give up, but that I also felt another part of me saying 'Keep going!" He joined me on the mission to get there on time, as I continued to give him commentary. We shared the moments of excitement when things looked good, and moments of talking myself out of giving up when it looked impossible.

Ultimately I made it there with 30 seconds to spare, and felt like a champion who'd just won a race! I celebrated with my son, but didn't realize how soon he would need the lesson I'd just shared with him. Two days later at school he was faced with an assignment that had to be completed in a short amount of time. He was being overcome by the negative thoughts in his head. I reminded him that I had just overcome the same thing and that if he didn't give up, that God could help him accomplish what he needed to accomplish too.

At the end of the day, he couldn't wait to tell me that he'd completed his assignment. I told him how proud I was that he didn't give up. The best part is, that now he has a "Champion" story of his own that will continue to help him and everyone he shares it with. If God leads you to take a step, no matter how big or how small, He will make a way for you to complete it....Lesson Learned.

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